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One thing that is certain is that the majority of serious problems between a mixed Vietnamese-foreign couple are cultural. I am 27 years old and.
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In Vietnam, sex is considered as a taboo subject and having pre-marital sex is unacceptable according to the social convention. Therefore, couples in Vietnam have been expected to have a platonic love before they officially get married. Most Vietnamese parents prevent their children from having a boyfriend or girlfriend when they are in their late teens because they want their children to concentrate on their study. Paradoxically, should their beloveds are going to reach 30, they would certainly urge him or her to get married. Accordingly, arranged marriage is not uncommon in Vietnam.

In the countryside, a true love does not necessarily lead to marriage owing to family pressure. In exchange for a safe and secure life, the concept of love of many Vietnamese women have changed from romantic feelings to sense of security, although there is no guarantee that a family is stable without true love. Tip for dating in Vietnam: Group Booking Request Please input your request content. Phone number Please input your phone number. So we sat on this random porch and I held her after I told her that I was leaving tomorrow.

Hopefully things change when I go back in a month and we can be more public about it lol. If not I respect her decision regardless. I think it depends on the culture. But they show their affection in different ways and there are tender moments between them. I think cause we are raised in the US, we're so used to seeing PDA that when we don't see it we think something is wrong but it's just different.

OK- There's 3 types of girls in Vietnam. The first is your conservative girl.

Maybe a virgin, maybe been with guys at most. PDA makes them uncomfortable, it will be difficult NOT impossible to have sex with them before marriage, or at least a committed relationship. Looking for a relationship, not just fun. Next is your very slutty girl. This girl may actually be a prostitute, or maybe just sometimes, and maybe just looking for everything to be paid for etc. Not to be trusted. They want to use the fact that you are white to get what they want.

This is only good if you want a super attractive girl and have a lot of money anyways. Just don't leave her alone with money around, etc. The third, and only acceptable type for me currently is the group that is in the middle. They will have a decent job and may have come from a family with some money. They probably have dated a westerner before and sex is open as it is in the west. They have some conservative characteristics still, especially if they are from a smaller town originally, and will take care of you more than an American, for instance.

Vietnamese women stick with their man, so they'll have your back and take care of you. Very distinct groups with not many people "in the middle" of groups. Yep, this is exactly my experience in HCMC. Through internet, I have met many of the conservative-virgin types. It can be fun for a dinner or a movie. As for the sluts, well I've met my share of bar girls.

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I have a weird relationship with one of them, I see her almost every day outside of her "work environment", I don't give her money except for small amounts to buy food and stuff. I'm also seeing girls from the "middle group", it's the best. They are sexually experienced, open-minded though still conservative, don't expect money and they agreed when I said I did not want a full committed relationship. In fact, I'm doing this all backward, getting attached to a girl I know I can't fully have and just having casual sex with the normal, nice girls who would like to go further than that.

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Dude was a dbag to her but she broke up with him before officially hanging out with me. She was a family friend and my cousins asked him if he knew her and his response was "why would I know her" while they were dating. Damn I'm Vietnamese and I get creeped out whenever my girlfriend brings up the topic. It's rather subtle, but the mentioning of her friends getting married is more than enough to make me cringe.

I don't know how our relationship can really proceed because I don't want to get married at least before 30, but she's just 1 year younger than me It might not be a good idea for me to reveal the tricks of the "game" - I'm just gonna have more competition - but here it goes. I have been in the dating scene in HCMC for the past hmm, 3 months. I created accounts on Badoo, Wechat, Tagged. I've basically never had to contact girls, I get messages from new people almost daily.

Most of the time, it doesn't go farther than the same set of questions Where are you from? What is you job? How long you been here?

Do you have a girlfriend? Normal stuff like dinner, movie, walk in the park. On these 12 or so, I had sex with 4 of them and two I still see regularly my week schedule is getting hard to manage. The majority of girls I have been with through dating sites seem to be the conservative type: They feel it's their duty to cook and clean for their man, to get married first and THEN fall in love.

Basically, the mentality in America years ago.

Luckily, they are not all like that. The ones I had sex with were the open-minded ones, more westernized maybe. They had experience with foreigners before, didn't care about being a virgin before marriage. One girl I see regularly now does not even care if I see other women, as long as I use condoms. On the first date she proposed we try an "open relationship" with no love involved, just sex and dating.

On the first coffee date. Your mileage may vary, it might be hard to find women who don't care about kissing on the street for example or who don't want you for your money. On that last point, I must say: I've seen it happen around me and it just breaks hearts. Even if love goes both ways, which may happen, money will usually come first for her. And it will hurt to see her "go to work" every night. But if you want a quick relief or are just tired of having to charm and date and make up stories and look happy, then by all mean just go take a walk on Bui Vien and have fun.

Thats why I always ask first before kissing a girl lol but im pretty sure if a girl tells me she loves me and wants to marry me after a few dates then shes in it for a green card haha. Thank you I appreciate your response! My caucasian friend went back to VN for about 3 months, and ended up with about 10 potential "offers".

Once he left, I don't think any of them kept in contact with him. He eventually moved to VN about a year ago, and bought a giant house off nha trang.