"What is one thing you have learned from dating a military service member? Having a relationship with someone in the military can present many challenges .
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- 1. Don't forget the man inside the uniform.
I'm 22 years old, and this is my first time being in a relationship with a man in the military. He just got back from Afghanistan and decided that he wants to be married within the next two years. I've heard many stories of soldiers being unfaithful, and I was wondering with him being only 21, should I be concerned?
We are already nine hours apart, and I plan on moving my son and me closer to him. Will that help at all? I promised myself that would be my year to start being more open and honest with everyone who writes to me. I'm not saying I will be mean or surly, I just intend to be more candid about the situation. You said this is your first time with a military man. I hope he is a good man, not only because you deserve a good man, but because you have a son that you are bringing into the relationship. I've learned over the years that some people go crazy over a man in uniform.
It represents power and prestige for many. They forget the man inside the uniform. They believe the uniform and rank equals character, but it doesn't.
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Because of this, women can leap too quickly into the relationship. As a result, they can ignore signs that should be grabbing their attention. I would say this if you were 22 or Your age doesn't matter and his age doesn't matter. Just take your time. Naturally, you want to be in close proximity to your boyfriend, but the distance will be OK for now.
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If he is deploying soon, just stay where you are. You have set at least a two-year marker for marriage and that's great. Use this time to get to know him and his character. You have time before you need to let your child get to know him. Women often involve their children too soon in a new relationship and, when it ends, it leaves their children confused and angry. Children see their mother's excitement, and they feed off her emotions quite naturally. However, when the bubble bursts, they feel the same sadness and disappointment too.
I had never felt so alone as when I had to mingle with these people and get to know them, when I was so new to everything relatively speaking and had so little in common with them. But whatever military-hosted gathering you find yourself at, all you can do is get through it. So make friends with as many people who have dated, married, or been family to someone in the military. So just hold on, ask a few and only a few questions, and be patient.
You will learn with time, and someday, it will be second nature to inquire where he will be PCSing to and whether his BAH has come in yet. So when their chain of command switches their duties to something awful, or when they are berated for three hours about something as small as having part of their uniform out of regs — just be there for them. If you can, give them a hug, hold their hand, and be still. Guys, especially, often prefer to just voice their problems — sometimes at great length — in order to get over a tough day.
Girls tend to ask for real sympathy and sometimes a suggestion for how to amend their problems, seeking feedback more than a punching bag to take all their stress out on. Either way, soft encouragement along with simple physical gestures — hand-holding, a gentle squeeze on the arm, a hug — will let them know you care without being too much.
If distance separates you, listening is your greatest ally, along with your continued support and positivity.
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You are their chance to live a normal life. With a real person they are so in love with. Remind them of that, and escaping the misery of their work will be easier for them.
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I have yet to feel the everyday struggle of surviving a deployment, wondering if I will ever see him again. I know what it means to miss someone so painfully that I find myself thinking of no one else during every moment of the day. And you will too, if you find yourself in a similar LDR.
Maybe this is true for any couple — but I never felt as strongly about it as I did when I started dating my sailor. And it will either scare you, anger you, or simply remind you of the benefits of your relationship.
1. Don't forget the man inside the uniform.
Some people, honestly, are in it for the benefits, people who are willing to give up their single status for medical benefits, being provided for financially, and receiving all kinds of other opportunities not necessarily available to civilian spouses. Whether you intend to marry your service member or not, the relentless jokes on money-hungry significant others which are almost wholly pointed at women, might I add can definitely make you feel awful. There is no stronger love than a military love. You will learn to accept change better than anyone you know because nothing, nothing can be taken for granted or guaranteed.
The military owns your significant other. They are bound to follow orders or receive consequences for noncompliance. Tell them you love them and that everything they do will bring the two of you closer together and to where you truly want to be soon enough.