The next day, I was grocery shopping and met a guy who asked for my .. LW, you'd be perfectly within your rights to just start dating other.
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From his love of sailing to his East Coast upbringing, his fluency in French and his humanist views on life, he was everything I was looking for. We once had the same sailing instructor just weeks apart and a need to renew his passport took him to the consulate where I worked. So we planned a real date for that Monday and had another again that same week. For the first time in my life, dating was easy. We were both busy with work and lived on opposite ends of Brooklyn but we consistently made plans to see each other and texted nearly everyday.
Where is this going? How did they meet? What does she look like, what does she do? Why was he still looking, was I not enough? Who would he choose?
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I am not hundred percent sure I want to marry A or B. If she focuses all her attention on me and it does not end up in marriage, I will feel guilty. I encourage her not to put her eggs in one basket. This is complete bs to me! Why would I need to date other people if I want to be with someone?!! This is such shit.
This is advice for emotionally unavailable, insecure dickheads and I honestly feel sorry for anybody who treats a woman this way. Man I totally agree! Youre not tough enough to be with her. This is what separates the winners from the losers.
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Not in society but in your heart! I have very strong ideas about relationships and love. I guess I take quite a traditional view in that I want to find somebody to share my life with — a partner in crime so to speak who shares everything. I recognise not everybody is the same. It will just make her like YOU less, which jeopardises your chance of ever developing something meaningful wirh her.
I personally think people should focus on one person at a time and give that person nothing less than their full attention if they want a happy, fulfilling relationship and to find love. I entirely agree, Iris, and women who advise men they are dating to see other women are not something I have ever encountered. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on relationships, Iris. You want to be in a relationship where you both feel free to share openly.
It also sounds like you value honesty, like real, to the core honesty. Honesty can be confronting. Not many people are up to the challenge of risking it all for the sake of being upfront and honest. The obstacle many guys face is an unwillingness to be vulnerable.
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Some guys feel alone often, desire connection, and imagine that being liked or wanted by another person is the outcome they need to feel connected. The problem is not that they want a relationship. Or that they desire to feel connected to a woman. The problem is that the pathway they use to achieve their desires is self-defeating. They want connection yet they hold back, be shady, and fake what is going on for them so they can get the girl, or hold on to the girl.
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After a few years of this and not every feeling satisfied in the women he meets or the quality of relationships he has in his life, a guy can find himself asking if he is lucky: Intimate connection in relationships is not achieved when both people are in sole possession of the other, but when both can bask in pure appreciation of the other.
Connection with women is not predicated on commitment not saying this is not valuable and important , just that experiencing meaningful connection with women or anyone is predicated on the ability and willingness to be open and vulnerable, to risk it all. Rather than experiencing honesty as confronting, its about being honest because doing so is one the most independent ways to feel connected and freely expressive with others especially if those other people also value honesty.
I guess in the end you are right, encouraging women to date other men, is about confronting jeopardizing losing your dependence on her to be the solution to your feelings of being alone. J Martinez — thank you for this. J Martinez, I happened to catch your comment, and as a man in his mid thirties who had struggled with relationships in life, this really hit home for me.
Thank you for taking the time to put into words what I could not. Is that the society you wish to live in. Is that the society you wish to create, and leave behind. You are attempting to change society in such a way, that women will need to change themselves to fit in. They will wrongly believe that being promiscuous is the correct path. In this world, as humans, we are to learn to control our insecurities, both men and women, and develop together. You wish step on and bring out the worst in women, in a selfish attempt to feel better about yourself. I pity you, as you were a victim of someone who changed society long ago to what it is now, and are too immature and blind to see reality.
You seem to be afraid of your insecurities, and on the contrary to what you claim to say, your the one who is running away from your insecurities. What kind of authentic, deep relationship can you have when your girlfriend is having sex with other guys? This advice is no better than the Machiavellian Red Pill bullshit floating around on the Internet. You are no better than PUA. In fact you are the same, just masquerading as something better. Not all men actually most men out there know how to approach and talk to a woman naturally.
There are actually good guys out there with no intention of laying s of women, but just want to learn how to approach and attract one. You blame PUAs tactics as manipulation? Fine, maybe they are a bit.
Did you actually read the points made in the article? Or just read the title and assume you knew what it was about?
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The content advises men get women they are dating to date other men. If non-exclusive, casual relationships are your bag then cool.
Yes, I did read the article and I find it deplorable. Eliminating neediness and your insecurities can be done by working on yourself. And you say that you are different. I know that I and most people who are psychologically mature would feel very wrong doing it. Have you stopped to consider if these ideas are true? The first one, to me, is incredibly limiting and has the potential to cause a lot of problems including jealousy, loneliness, and frustration in your life.
The second one is more of a moral judgement but still limiting, nonetheless. Yes, the Red Pill people believe in sleeping around, but so do feminists: This article has clearly awoken some deeply held limitations in your unconscious and if you take the opportunity to open up, rather than close down, you could learn a lot about yourself and grow through this.
He very clearly says: But in the world of causal playing, it can be beneficial. The author is ultimately suggesting that you have to fuck many women to get rid of your neediness and insecurities, instead of focusing on one.